Before the Adoption (PART 3: GETTING READY FOR THE ADOPTION)

     I moved in with the at this time pending adoptive parents when I was 18 months old. I never asked the question what date did I come stay with you? All I know is that I was 18 months old when I moved into the household. That was something I was told, early on in my life. I will tell that on a later date perhaps. I don't know how they were picked, or who picked this family for me, perhaps it was my father who picked the Adoptive parents out. I don't honestly know. I can speculate it but, I can't really put my finger on it because, I was never told that part of the story. All I do know however, is I got this Adoptive family.

    I know it takes some time to adopt a child and I know that sometimes the circumstances in adopting children may vary but, I do know that my adoptive mother, wasn't really good with me in a sense. I'll talk about that later on and I'll talk about some of the nightmares I've had as well. 

    I was Adopted to a family of four at the time, and they were at some point a foster family as well. I mean to other children. There was my adoptive mom and dad, and they had two children who were older than I was. One Girl and One Boy of their own. They had a big house in the country side, and grew apples and pears on the property. This was 1991 about. My bio family thought this was a good fit for me but, non-the-less they thought wrong.

    Sure the dad was a really good man and worked for a hydro company. But the mother was something else. Something no one knew at that time had existed.I'll go into this in another blog post. I don't know much about the story of the adoption, I mean getting ready for the adoption, when my adoption took place, and I don't know why I am writing this. Maybe to speculate on some things, maybe to information dump. I don't honestly know. All I know is that I am an adoptee who has been through so much havoc in her life that drove me to do the things she has done so far.

    All I know is the mother had the wool over my eyes for years and I didn't know what was going on for most of my life. I always had an inkling that something wasn't right with her, and she's had the wool over my families eye for years and still does.

    Let me say this, a big house in the country where no one can see what's going on, and home schooling your children, isn't an ideal way to live. It's a gateway to abuse children. I will write about an example of this later on because I have one story in particular that absolutely shows this.


Deejaegh

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